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Rania Naim

Rania Naim

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I hope you never take a wrong leap of faith because you think that if you don’t do it now, you’ll never do it. I hope you don’t let people who pretend to live their life to the fullest make you feel like yours is not fulfilling enough and that you need to jump on the bandwagon now or else you’ll miss the train. I hope you don’t fall for the wrong person and settle because the clock is ticking and you’re held back because of your age or your culture or family pressure. I hope you realize that love is the only thing you can’t rush. Love is the only thing you can’t force. I hope you never feel like you have to meet certain expectations just because time is slipping by and everyone around you seems to meet them. I hope you don’t try so hard to match someone’s life or dream that you forget your own. I hope you don’t let the world fool you into believing that your journey is insignificant or that you’re behind just because you’re not doing what everyone else is doing. I hope you don’t rush into major life decisions just so you could be ahead in a race that’s not even yours. Maybe your path is slower or more difficult. Maybe it’s not as appealing as others for now but at least it’s original. At least it’s yours. You’re not trying to live someone else’s story. You’re not desperately trying to prove something to others. You’re living your own truth. You’re following your own pace. You trust in divine timing. I hope you never have to rush big things because of time. I hope you take your time enjoying every moment, learning from every setback, finding strength and wisdom after every heartbreak and I hope you learn how to give yourself a break, how to give yourself time to bloom and time to shine. I hope time doesn’t become your enemy. I hope you don’t waste your time trying to be on everyone else’s timing or trying to race people when you don’t know where the finish line is or where it will take you. And I hope you let time heal you because it may take a while for things to make sense but once they do, you’ll be glad you waited. You’ll be glad you embraced your journey instead of trying to change it. You’ll be glad you took your time.

Beware of the day she gives up because that means she’s reached her boiling point. It means that she’s been holding on and trying for far too long. It means she’s tried all the tricks in the book and she’s finally realizing that this is who you are and this is who you’ll always be. It means she’s finally quitting you and winning herself back. Beware of the day she chooses herself because that means that she won’t accommodate your games anymore. It means that you won’t get away with another mistake. It means she won’t believe another lie. Beware of the day she decides to treat you the same way you treat her because that marks the beginning of the end. Beware of the day she takes all her love back because it simply means that she’s not scared of losing you anymore. She’s not afraid of letting you go. Because everything she’s ever done was an attempt to keep you. Everything she’s ever done was her way of trying to hold on for as long as she could because she knew that if she reached that moment; there’s no turning back. She knew that if she starts to look at the red flags she once ignored, she can’t unsee them. She knew that if she probed your relationship further she’s going to find more emptiness than depth, more lies than honesty and she’s going to figure out eventually that your love was fake. Beware of the day she finds out that your love was fake because that day will be the day you lose her forever. That will be the day where every single attempt to win her back will fail. That will be the day that all the fighting in the world won’t bring her back. That will be the day you’ll know for sure that she ran out of chances to give you, that her heart ran out of forgiveness, ran out of love, ran out of trust and ran out of patience. That will be the day she warned you about one time and you took it lightly and it will be the day that will haunt you every time you remember all the times you let her down, all the times you didn’t treat her right almost certain that she’ll never leave. Beware of the day she leaves, because it will be the day when you least expect it to. It will happen so quickly that you won’t even have a chance to say goodbye.

Some people are good but only for a limited time, because the longer they stay, the more damage they will cause. Some people are better loved from a distance because when you get too close you start seeing a different side. A side that doesn’t nourish your soul anymore. A side that doesn’t bring out the best in you anymore. The side that’s opposite from everything they claimed to be. Some people are just like a temporary fix but not the cure. They remind you of your capability to love and open up. They dig out the lost emotions you once buried. They make you feel alive again for a certain period of time but they’re not meant to make you feel alive forever, they’re not meant to coexist with you because they will only bring you down. They will hinder your personal growth because they drain all the energy out of you. After a certain period of time, they have to be left alone. Some people heal you for a moment but hurt you for a lifetime. Some people make you happy occasionally but cause you a lot of pain daily. Some people don’t lie when they say they love you but rarely prove their love to you with the right actions. Some people truly want the best for you but they have no idea what that is. And even though it’s a hard pill to swallow, these people will always be the problem rather than the solution. They’ll always be a fix, not a cure. They’ll always be a guest in your house rather than a perennial part of your home. You can ask all the questions but the answer will always be the same; they’re only in your life for a limited time, they have an expiration date, they’re a temporary fix and we all know that temporary fixes don’t really fix anything. Sometimes they make things worse. And we also know that sometimes we think certain people can fix us but they break us even more. It’s time to fix ourselves and find people who help us heal instead of investing in temporary people and losing ourselves permanently. Photo: @unsplash

If you think about it, it’s hard for God to let anyone down because even the incidents that make us suffer have something important to teach us and even the people we loved the most leave us because they’re not right for us or they shape us into better, stronger individuals. God knows all that but we don’t because when I look back every wonderful beginning stemmed from a painful ending. Every moment of success and greatness sprung from a moment of utter weakness and desperation. I still have days when I find it hard to believe that God will turn certain situations around just because of how long it has taken him or how stagnant everything has been but then I realized that maybe God will never change these situations, maybe he just wants me to remove myself from them. Maybe an unanswered prayer is not really an unanswered prayer but a sign for you to change directions. That maybe the answer is you removing yourself from the situation instead of asking God to change it because it’s not meant to be part of your story anymore. Maybe this is how God works, he doesn’t follow your vision or manifests the things you want exactly the way you want them but he has his own vision, another script, another story but it has the same ending. And maybe that’s all we should really pray for, that we all get the happy ending we’ve been wishing for; it might not be in the same city we picked or the same people we imagined ourselves with but we should all hope for that happy ending and leave the details and the logistics up to him. But as long as we keep believing that God will not let us down in the end, he will over-deliver on every promise. He will over-fulfill every wish. What if we’re being limited in our faith in him? We want him not to let us down while he is planning to amaze us instead. And what if every sad ending is not really our ending? It’s still part of the journey leading up to it. Unless it’s a happy one, God isn’t done with us yet. Photo: @unsplash

Here’s the funny thing about fate, it doesn’t like liars. It exposes them eventually. It sends their malicious karma back to them and it sends little messengers of truth to tell you or show you exactly the truth behind these lies. So trust me when I say that after every deception, the truth will come out. The truth about that person, the truth about their lies and the truth about how much you really meant to them. The people who deceive you are only deceiving themselves because eventually, they won’t be able to run away from the truth. They can’t run away from their demons or their flaws. They won’t be able to wear the deception mask for too long because they forget one very important factor, they forget that people eventually take their blindfolds off, their intuition kicks in, they start seeing the true colors, they sniff the lies and they finally walk away when they’ve had enough. If someone deceived you, it says a lot about them, not you. If anything, you should be happy that you’re no longer associated with someone who can’t be real with themselves or people. You should be happy that you’re no longer in the presence of someone who can’t be genuine or vulnerable or sincere. But every deception is a confirmation from God that this road is not for you, that these people are not for you, that those who deceive you need to heal their own issues before you can truly trust them or love them. Every deception is a confirmation from God that you’re looking for happiness in the wrong place. Deception is God’s way of redirecting you so you can keep finding your truth. Away from those who are still running away from theirs. Away from those who think they’re too clever for deceiving you and maybe even laugh about it with their friends. They gloat over breaking you but they’re only breaking themselves and that’s the saddest truth of all — how broken they really are. Because after every deception, you dodge a bullet and it goes straight back to them. Shattering the glass they used to cut you and it wounds them instead. After every deception, you heal while they remain broken.

If you truly want to know someone, you have to see them when they’re angry. You have to test their limits to know how far they can go, what kind of words they will use, what kind of person they are when things aren’t going their way. Do they belittle you? Do they make you feel inferior? Do they make you feel like you’re to blame for everything that’s wrong with them? Watch who they become when they’re not trying to impress you. Watch who they become when you don’t accommodate their needs. If you truly want to know someone, examine how they treat you after a fight. Are they okay with leaving you days or weeks without apologizing, without checking up on you, without trying to understand why you’re hurt? Are they okay with losing you over a fight? Do they suddenly take back all their promises and their vows like they didn’t mean them? If you truly want to know someone, stand up for yourself, for your values, for your beliefs and communicate your standards because if they only like you when you’re pleasant and obedient and easygoing, then they’re not serious about you. They don’t take your feelings seriously. They don’t want you as a whole, they want the bits and pieces that suit them. The version they approve of. If you truly want to know someone, watch the way they fight, listen to their angry words, examine how much they’re willing to hurt you when they’re upset, but more than anything, watch very closely how they fight for you, for the relationship, for the connection. Watch closely the aftermath of a fight because it will show you if they’re trying to save the relationships or destroy it and it will show you if everything they ever told you was true or if it was all a lie.

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