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Rania Naim

Rania Naim

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Do me a favor and know when to end things. When it causes you more pain than joy, end it. When it makes you feel like you’re not good enough, end it. When it doesn’t make you proud of who you are, end it. When you know this is not what you deserve, end it. Have the courage to end what doesn’t serve you well. Have the courage to end anything that manipulates you into someone you’re not. Have the kind of faith that gives you the power to believe that something better is on its way to you even if you can’t see it yet. Muster the courage to walk away even if staying is more comfortable. Even if staying is all you really want to do. Because as much as ending things that we’re attached to is difficult, sometimes holding on to them is toxic. It’s toxic to try and fix something that’s already broken. It’s toxic to try and change someone who wants to remain the same. It’s toxic to drain yourself out of love when you’re not getting what you truly desire out of it. We don’t have to mourn all endings. Some endings may be hard to swallow at first but when you look past the pain, you see the wisdom and the lessons behind them, the new opportunities they brought you and the new person they shaped you into. When you look past the pain, you will find that endings can be celebrated too. So do me a favor and know when to end things because nothing is worse than knowing you deserve more, knowing you can get a lot more than what you’re getting but you’re choosing to settle instead. Nothing is worse than being with someone who challenges everything you believe about love. So do me a favor and know when to end things, especially if they make you love yourself a little less. Do me a favor and choose to end things that don’t make you a better person. Do me a favor and choose yourself.

2018, I’m ready. I’m ready to let you go. I’m so ready to let you go. You weren’t the easiest or the happiest and I’m ready to say goodbye to everything you’ve brought. I’m ready to let go of the parts of you that disappointed me, the people who let me down, the moments that I couldn’t hold myself together and the times when I almost gave up on myself. I learned. You taught me that nothing is ever predictable, especially people. You taught me that family could easily diminish your value in a moment of anger, friends could replace you when they find their significant other, people can lie to your heart and break it just to mend theirs, but most of all you taught me how to stand alone. You proved to me that the only person I can control is me and the only person I can really count on is also me. You taught me not to get too attached to people or trust too much or love too much. You taught me that I have to always guard myself even from the closest people to my heart. But….. I forgive you. I forgive you for all the pain, the betrayal, the unpleasant surprises, and the confusion. I forgive you for the countless nights you made me sleep with tears in my eyes. I forgive you for making the happy times short-lived. Maybe as much as I want to forget you, you will be the year I look back on to avoid future disasters or think twice before getting close to someone again or maybe you’ll be the year that brought me closer to myself and that will make all the difference. However… I’m going to get over you. I’m already healing from your wounds. I’m done living in your sob story. I’m done being your victim. I’m done letting you take so much space and energy. I’m done dwelling on all the things I didn’t do and all the dreams you didn’t let me live. I’m done trying to make everything happen before you end. You weren’t the year for me and it’s time to move on. It’s time to let you go. 2019 — I don’t know what to expect, I don’t know if you’ll be better or worse, but I know that I’m ready for you. I’m ready to write a new story on your empty pages. I can only hope that this time it’s a happy one. I can only hope that this time, you are the year for me.

Today, I'm writing to thank you all. Thank you for this milestone. Thank you for reading my words. Thank you for giving my life meaning. Thank you for taking my writing journey to a whole new level. 3 years ago, I was just a girl with a dream, I always wanted to write but I was scared of how people will react to it, I was afraid of exposing myself and I was worried my writing days will only be limited to my diaries and my laptop, then I realized that all of this didn't matter when I started connecting with you, reading your stories and sharing my life with you. It all made sense. The fears subsided. The worries dissipated and I became a fearless writer because of you. I am proud of what I accomplished but the real credit goes to you. You all contributed to changing my life and making my dreams come true and I can only be grateful for your support, your love, your strength and your vulnerability. I wouldn't be the writer I am today if it weren't for you and for that, I'll always be grateful. You gave me a voice and filled me with happiness, joy, love and gratitude. Thank you. 100,000 times THANK YOU 💙🙏

Maybe we fear that the ones we love will fall in love with someone else; someone smarter, someone more attractive, someone with more common interests and there’s always the chance that this might happen but during these times you have to remember one very important thing: There may be plenty of other women and men out there, but there’s only one you. There’s only one you and that’s going to be enough for the right person. Whether that person stays or leaves and comes back, all you have to do is believe that while there may be other temptations and other people capturing their attention, there’s only one person who could capture their heart. There’s only one person who will be able to move them in a way no one else has. You have to trust yourself and have enough confidence in who you are and the way you love. No one talks the way you do. No one listens the way you do. No one has your quirks and your characteristics. No one has your sense of humor or your honesty. No one has your strength or your vulnerability. No one has your story. No one can make them feel the way you do. And I hope you realize that just because someone didn’t choose you doesn’t make you any less valuable or attractive. It just makes you a better fit for someone else. It makes you more available to someone who is looking for the kind of love you can give. And to find that person you have to believe that you are incredible. That you are great. That you are enough. You have to believe that the right person may meet and get to know a bunch of other people more ‘intimidating’ but at the end of the day, they’ll choose you. They’ll pick you because you’re their special someone. They’ll choose you because there’s only one you and to them, you are their world.

I can’t wait for the day when life finally makes sense, when we find the silver lining in every tragedy, when we learn the lesson from each mistake and when we understand why our hearts needed to get broken a few times to let love in. I can’t wait for the day that we understand why we met the right people at the wrong time or the wrong people at the right time and why our lives didn’t align to bring us together. I wonder if it’s because they’re the wrong ones for us or because we still have a lot of growing up to do and we’re meant to be with someone who understands who we’re becoming not who we were. I can’t wait for the day that we understand the lesson behind every struggle. Why we struggled to be successful, why we struggled to find love, why we struggled to reach our dreams and why we lost people who meant the world to us. I wonder if we needed these lessons to learn how to appreciate life and feel the pain of others or we just needed to learn that there is no living without suffering. I can’t wait for the day that we understand why we had to hate ourselves to love ourselves, why we had to destroy ourselves to build ourselves up again and why we had to start over just before we got to the finish line. I wonder who saved us or who inspired us to save ourselves. I wonder if we are meant to be reborn a few times so we can learn how to truly live. I want to know what triggered us to change and how we can no longer recognize who we used to be. I can’t wait for the day that life makes sense – some days I understand why certain things happened and others I’m not so sure, but all I know is that somehow we’ll connect the dots and someday we’ll complete the puzzle, until then, we have to learn how to live our lives without trying to understand it and we have to learn how to be comfortable with the irony and uncertainty of life; otherwise we’ll lose our common sense trying to make sense of the life we’re living. ******************************************************Throwback to the day @paulocoelho shared my words on his blog and page! Definitely one of the biggest highlights of my writing career ☺️☺️🙏🙏

You’re allowed to leave any story you don’t find yourself in. You’re allowed to leave any story you don’t love yourself in. You’re allowed to leave a city that has dimmed your light instead of making you shine brighter, you’re allowed to pack all your bags and start over somewhere else and you’re allowed to redefine the meaning of your life. You’re allowed to quit the job you hate even if the world tells you not to and you’re allowed to search for something that makes you look forward to tomorrow and to the rest of your life. You’re allowed to leave someone you love if they’re treating you poorly, you’re allowed to put yourself first if you’re settling and you’re allowed to walk away when you’ve tried over and over again but nothing has changed. You’re allowed to let toxic friends go, you’re allowed to surround yourself with love, and people who encourage and nurture you. You’re allowed to pick the kind of energy you need in your life. You’re allowed to forgive yourself for your biggest and smallest mistakes and you’re allowed to be kind to yourself, you’re allowed to look in the mirror and actually like the person you see. You’re allowed to set yourself free from your own expectations. We sometimes look at leaving as a bad thing or associate it with giving up or quitting, but sometimes leaving is the best thing you can do for yourself. Leaving allows you to change directions, to start over, to rediscover yourself and the world. Leaving sometimes saves you from staying stuck in the wrong place with the wrong people. Leaving opens a new door for change, growth, opportunities and redemption. You always have the choice to leave until you find where you belong and what makes you happy. You’re even allowed to leave the old you behind and reinvent yourself. Change your story, if you must 🙂

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